Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality.

This can encompass but is not limited to the following types of abuse:

• psychological
• physical
• sexual
• financial
• emotional

Yes they can and they are. It can happen to any man, no matter what background, age, job, race or sexuality.  At GASPED we will support anyone who asks for help.

Controlling behaviour is: a range of acts designed to make a person subordinate and/or dependent by isolating them from sources of support, exploiting their resources and capacities for personal gain, depriving them of the means needed for independence, resistance and escape and regulating their everyday behaviour.

This can include but is not limited to:

• Stopping you seeing family and friends
• Repeated belittling and insulting you
• Threatening to limit contact with your children if you leave
• Controlling the family income and preventing or limiting access to money
• Constantly checking on your whereabouts
• Following or stalking you
• Gaslighting 
• Monitoring your movements and time
• Blackmail
• False accusations.

If you are a man and experiencing any of the above or anything else you see as controlling or cohersive behaviour GASPED can offer you support.

If you are immediate danger you should call 999.

If you are unable to talk, or it is not safe to do so press 55 when asked to speak.  The police will try to locate you.

Otherwise  you can call GASPED for support on 01924 787501

If you are not ready to speak to someone there are other things you can do:

• Leave the relationship, if you can and it is safe to do so.
• Keep a diary, take photos (try to keep these somewhere your abuser can’t find it)
• Confide in someone you trust
• Keep documents, diary, phone and phone numbers to hand
• Report incidents to a GP
• Contact the police and record details of the abuse.  (Report online to West Yorkshire police)
• Do not retaliate

We have a team of trained counsellors who are able to offer support and advise.  There will be no judgement and you will be believed.  Any help we give is comepletly confidential and can be as much or as little as you want.

We can offer 1-2-1 counselling, support and advice.

We can help signpost you to other services and liaise with outher organisations on your behalf.

Call us today on 01924 787501

To get help from GASPED you do not have to have reported any of your abuse to the police.  We offer a confidential service without judgement or expectation and you make the decisions about what action you want to take if any.

If you are in immediate danger or there is an imminet threat to your a safety we would  encourage and support you in contacting the police.

If you do decide to report your abuser to the police them we can offer support and guidance throughout any criminal proceedings.

 Report abuse online to West Yorkshire Police

No, this service is completely free of charge